Aging is a process which is often looked at with dismay, a feeling of nostalgia. I feel quite the other way round. I think that aging has its own glory, own merits and advantages.
We can look at it with an era of enjoying our inner strengths which is compensated for the outer glamour and strength we lose in aging process.
I will cite my favourite four, first one is forgiving oneself. After crossing thirty I have seen a strange transformation in myself, if it has been an ongoing process then it was too subtle to notice. I suddenly noticed that I have become sweet to myself regarding my own faults. I easily forgive myself for forgetting important things, making serious mistakes. Things for which I used to scowl at myself don’t even cause a frown. Instead, I gently remind myself that to err is human, and smile. Now this forgiving tendency is not toward my own faults only, it has proportionately increased for faults of others too. I was always lot more forgiving to others than I was to myself, now it has increased even more.
Second one is accepting my physical defects and appearance cheerfully. Before crossing thirty if some one told me that I am too skinny, or questioned about any other defects of mine I used to fume for days. Now it has slashed down, unless that person is too rude I often laugh it away with him or her. Ten years ago walking out of home meant I had to take care of lot of things, my looks, my dress and much more. Now all I concentrate is on casting an impression of cleanliness, that’s it. I don’t care of assumptions of people any more. I can travel half way to the other end of kolkata dressed up casually. Same thing is applied to others, I never judged people by their dress or appearance though, now it has become even more lenient.
Third one is enjoying today, without sobbing for yesterday or pining for a golden tomorrow. To be content and thankful for what I am now. That does not means that I have stopped working for tomorrow,but unlike my pre thirty time, now I have started to relish today, learning from yesterday and working toward tomorrow. But treating today as last day of my life, which it can be. So never losing the chance to make some one smile.
Fourth one is my favourite one, loving without expecting and desire to own the beloved. A thing which I thought is impossible for a passionate person like me. Now with wisdom controlling passion I have realized the greatest truth, happiness of a loving heart lies in the happiness of the beloved. Earlier I used to take all, possible attempts to stay in the heart of my loved ones, but now the process has become exactly opposite. Now I try my level best to go only that far after which I may lose my loved one from my heart.
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